Prelude To Mother's Day

NOTE: This was written on May 12, 2012: NOTE!

 

It has been four days since I have wrote anything. In four days, a lot has happened. Some of which will not be posted here just for my own knowledge; but I will say that we disappoint ourselves more than other people.

However, Mother’s Day is just three hours away for me. Mother’s Day has never been a great holiday for me in honoring my Mother-Mothers would be used correctly here. I have many mothers on this earth and just for clarification, I will name them (but not in any particular order). 

Mother Emily

Mother Gina

Mother Jackie

Mother Sandra

Mother Recie

Granny-My mother of 13 years. 

Anyway, all of these Moms have played a great part in my upbringing. Let me say that they may have not known it, but I still love and respect, and look up to each of them greatly. Even if I do not speak to them on a daily basis, I love them dearly because they have all been there for me in some way or another-helping me grow in everything that I have done. Yet, I write all of this for a reason. 

When I use the word “love” in the sense of Mothers, I use it as deep as it can go because my biological and worldly mother, did pass away when I was 6 years old but these other women have not taken her place, but simply acted as an “interim” so to speak. However, one mother was in my life for three years and helped me greatly. It doesn’t matter what has happened since my heartbreak of being told that I am not her “chosen son” any more-because I still love her deeply. I still want her in my life and I still want to make her proud, I want her to be there for me as I go through all kinds of personal struggles-friendship, grades, professors, jobs, and grad school hunting just for the foreseen future endeavors. I want her to encourage me in every decision, but still know that if I make a decision that she does not approve of, she will still be there no matter what! To me, that is what being a Mom is all about-being supportive of the child whom you call son or daughter.

Some of the following characteristics are what a mother is supposed to be according to the Bible as seen in reference to Proverbs 31:10-31. Note: these are random words taken from it so please look it up for yourself if you want a complete description of “a wife of noble character.”

Worth more than rubies, food bearer, works vigorously, extends her hands to the needy, she is clothed with strength and dignity, children call her blessed, and finally, “many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”

So now we come to being the Devil’s Advocate here and use what a mother is secularly:

Controlling, as seen from the character of Lois from Malcolm in the Middle*

Desperate, as seen in any character from Desperate Housewives*

Feisty, as seen in the character of Piper from Charmed*

Constraining, as seen in the character of Barbra Jean from Reba*

Or even

Promiscuous, as seen from Sherri Shepherd from The Newlywed Game*

*This is only taken from my own personal opinion*

Anyway, these horrible verbs from the secular side of “mother’s day” are words that I hear from people-who for whatever reason-find their mother to be classified as these horrible adjectives. However, Mother’s Day to me, is the best-worse day of the year. Best because I get to hear so many people tell wonderful stories of their mothers, but it’s the worse because so many people say they do not like their mom or worse, they hate her. As I have come to realize, you can not control every situation-yes, I want to!-but one can not control every situation of every day! And, we can not control who is our mother and who is not.

As mentioned, I have many mothers on this earth, six are mentioned. Those six have (for some, had) many things that I classify as “Mom.” In fact, in the living room, my granny has a “H.U.G” award that me and my sister gave to her for Mother’s Day in 1995 (I think that is what the date is). But anyway, do you know what the letters stand for? Well they mean, “Heart Uf Gold” award. This year, to each of my mother’s listed, I award them-even if I do not talk to them on a daily basis, I grant to them on this 12^th day of May-two hours prior to Mother’s Day-of 2012, the “H.U.G.” award. Congratulations from your Son whom watches you everyday and wants to make you proud and wants to make you happy in everything I do.

Mom, I love you and miss you greatly. Mother Emily, thank you for being there and saying you are proud of me. Mother Gina, thank you for just being there for me for the year we got to know each other. Mother Jackie, I will always remember your heart that you welcomed me into. Mother Sandra, I learned to be stubborn but loving for you. Granny, so many things learned and so many things that I want to say thank you for.

So for this madness entry, I would like to challenge each of you to remember you mother and say, “I love you” to her-in any form you like. Here’s an idea: an old fashioned letter! Yes, it is slow and long to get to, yet they can keep in their keepsake chest and then say “thank you dear, that meant a lot to me” to you.

Ranting about Mother’s Day has been hard for me and it hasn’t even started for me yet! So, right now, I will finish up, shut down my computer, and go to bed.

Thanks for reading this entry and hope you could follow the MaDnEsS on this journey!

~Matthew